Why do divorced men remarry so quickly

View Sample. Sign Up Now. Related Stories. Already a print subscriber? Go here to link your subscription. Need help? Visit our Help Center. Go here to connect your wallet. More men aren't too keen on marrying a woman with kids and creating an instant family.

Since more divorced moms have custody of their children, it can put them out of the dating loop -- but not divorced dads. But some men, obviously, are OK with blending families or even starting new families, which is surprising considering how many men complain -- rightfully so -- about paying alimony often for life and child support, often for children they can barely see. So then why are so many men eager to get hitched again -- especially when second marriages have a 67 percent chance of divorce?

Lucy Cavendish, an author and columnist for the U. Otherwise, she says, how can you explain why a man who has been badly burned in a divorce -- think Paul McCartney, who is about to marry wife No.

Maybe it's because marriage has its share of benefits for men -- married men are healthier and better off financially than unmarried men. Or maybe some men just don't want to be alone while many midlife divorced women want to have an "Eat, Pray, Love" experience and rediscover and reinvent themselves, without having to take care of anyone other than themselves. And let's face it; men typically find it a lot easier to attract a wider age range of women -- just like Buzz Aldrin did.

News U. Politics Joe Biden Congress Extremism. Special Projects Highline. HuffPost Personal Video Horoscopes. Follow Us. Women, who tend to be more vocal about their emotional struggles, are the squeaky wheel that gets the grease from friends, from online communities, from books, and from therapeutic approaches. Women are encouraged to go on an emotional journey of self-care after a divorce, while men are expected to need help learning how to cook and parent on their own.

When you Google "how men handle divorce", many of the links advise women on what to do if their husbands become violent during the divorce process. Why is there so little focus on how men can heal after a divorce? Of course, the common wisdom about why men remarry more quickly after divorce is that older men have a larger dating pool to choose from than older women do. But the picture may be more complicated than that — it's true that most post-divorce memoirs are written by women, and women may also have an easier time reaching out for help from friends and family after the end of the marriage.

Then there's the idea that women are better than men at maintaining friendships outside their romantic relationship — it's by no means true across the board, but it's been offered as an explanation for young men's greater suffering after breakups. Maybe some men feel the need to replace a marriage quickly because it's their only real source of social support.